Friday, July 14, 2006

"too good for marriage"

this, from the nytimes:
What’s noteworthy about the New York decision, however, is that it became the second ruling by a state high court to assert a startling rationale for prohibiting same-sex marriage — that straight couples may be less stable parents than their gay counterparts and consequently require the benefits of marriage to assist them.
according to this article, the language here is used because it "sounds nicer," but it also sounds "more desperate." right. like this is the best defense you have? i can see the argument for heterosexual marriage from natural law, from procreation, whatever - but i really, really don't see this one. and i do think that a lot of this "defense of marriage" rhetoric is purely religious. this is a problem in a supposedly secular state, guys. seriously, base your arguments on something real, something not based on a church that's supposedly separate from the government, or realize you've lost the argument. in my opinion.

and also, this, from the same op-ed:
Hostile rulings delivered in friendly tones can take longer to overturn, as evidenced by the century that passed before members of the Supreme Court reversed their thinking about women and, in a 1973 opinion in a sex discrimination case, recognized that confining women in the name of cherishing them put them "not on a pedestal, but in a cage."
is this over? i'm not quite sure that it is. i'm a fan of the analogy, of course. not too bitterly. :) but it's really telling in this case. and i wonder if it's an indication of where we're moving in the gay marriage issue or not.

did everyone notice that i learned how to use the block quotation button?

Monday, July 10, 2006

bronson arroyo, do you like me?

check yes or no. here's what's going on in this picture - bronson and jason are talking about girls.

spencer accused me of liking adam dunn because of his tight baseball pants. and i said, but spence, every baseball player wears tight pants.

i think i made a decent point.

if you hate this post, who cares. we're all friends here.

Monday, July 03, 2006

nothing more

i mean, so i felt like posting this favorite, from

Often, I write all day long with white ink on white paper, late into the night, until it is all I can do to feel the letters curving to earth from the tip of the pen & then, I fall asleep. Dreaming of running, or maybe driving in a car the color of water & I wake the next day remembering nothing & I gather the stack of paper & a pen of black on the desk in front of me & the words begin to dance over the page like long legged insects across a still lake & the words in white whisper behind & underneath the new day. If there is any secret to this life I live, this is it: the sound of what cannot be seen sings within everything that can. & there is nothing more to it than that.

thought of you, and where you've gone, and let the world spin madly on... i could listen to this song TWO MILLION TIMES in a row.

also, is it bad if i put my feet up on a library table? because i almost did just now and thought better of it.

Saturday, July 01, 2006


okay, this is what happens when you talk about trading adam dunn, who is officially my new favorite reds player. the spot's been open since sean casey went to the pirates [sad, sad day] - welcome, dunner, to the prestigious position of being the player i defend by saying things like, "but i loooove him! he's so good at baseball!"

but hey, was i right about him? currently, yes. okay, so we'll see... :)

also, it's come to my attention that perhaps this blog should be called something else:

b: you know, you call yourself a blogger, by the way.
me: i just updated, hoebag.
b: hahahaha as I was typing that I realized that I didn't check it yesterday, and you probably updated it yesterday.
b: for the first time in FIVE MONTHS, approx.
me: i know, i think that's hilarious.
me: i also like how it's all about the reds.
bets: hahahaha it so is.
bets: it's like "so i like words, okay?" [proceeds to talk exclusively about baseball.]

um. so i like words and baseball, okay?